Mother's Day-My first without my mother

My mother passed away the end of August 09 and she never liked Mother's Day and neither did her mother, my Grandmother Eidson. They both felt like it was a made up holiday (Hallmark) as my GM and my mother said nobody ever asked her to be a "mother", it was their choice. Therefore it was never a real celebration in our househould.

However, from about 1986 though 1995 I traveled with my Mother this week, it just happened because it was the best time to travel before Summer Season began and we got reduced rates and a lot less people with children. Through those years I always bought lunch on Mother's Day and I can remember being at the Crab Shack in Charleston (on the way out to Folly Beach and still there), breakfast at the Sanitary Cafe (on the corner in Folly Beach, but now is a bar) - I just loved that name "Sanitary Cafe" so many weird things come to mind. Then beach walking, swimming, what ever took our interest that day - but it was never a big deal.

In the late 80's we started to go to Tybee Island which is Savannah, GA's city beach and one of my favorite places in the world, however word has gotten out so there are too many people there now, but that is another story.

The first time we drove into Tybee, which was 1986, the old Econolodge was there (now Beachside Condos). We had been up at Surfside,SC staying with the bikers and decided it was time to leave. I think we spent one night on Folly (wonderful Jasime flowers) but the room rates were going up so we left for Tybee (2 hours at the most). As we drove into Tybee on SR80 there were all these traffic signs and a whole bunch of policeman. We found the Econolodge and the parking lot was filled with police cars, ambulances, a helicopter, etc. We wondered what the hell was going on, imagine that!

My mother conviced me that it was safe (I was the more paranoid than she was), so I went into the desk to check in. A Patel told me everything was fine at the hotel, the problem was down the beach with with the "Orange Crush Party" which was sponsored by them for one of the local schools. It had gotten way out of hand which is why the SP were there.

We checked into the very end unit toward the beach, 2 beds, coffee pot and bathroom, which was fine. We had the end unit on the first floor and there was a unit above us. Beer's in hand and schnapps for me we went out to watch the activity. Very interesting and more years following when we ended up at Tybee at the same time as Orange Crush provided more socialogically activities to debate, critize (our favorite) and follow.

This year my mother and father's best friends are coming in on Sunday to spend the night. My mothers best friend from 6th grade on will be spending the night. She has no problem with my father's girlfriend, although she has not met her yet! I have no problem with her either but she is starting to use my Mother's stuff in the house and that bothers me, whether right or wrong. I am an only child and what was my mother's, meaning coming from my mother's side belongs to me, she does not need to touch it. I guess I will have to converse with my father this week about this as although they do not sleep together in the bed's my parents shared this is gettin a bit too much.

BOY AM I VENTING!